“Living in the past is a dull and lonely business; looking back strains the neck muscles, causes you to bump into people not going your way.” ~ Edna Ferber
Tethered to the Past
During a midlife divorce, every aspect of your life seems dull. You feel lonely. You feel lost. And the truth is, you are clinging to the past. Every thought you have is somehow still wrapped up in you past life … your married life.
I hated that the future I had envisioned for myself was destroyed by my divorce. But I had to stop focusing so much on what I had lost and instead look ahead to my new future. Though my vision was destroyed, my future wasn’t.
After the Divorce
I can truthfully say that my life is infinitely better than I ever expected it to be. My real future has potential in it that wouldn’t have been possible before my divorce. That’s all hard to accept when you are in the middle of grieving your losses. But once you get a little farther out, you can start to see the potential in the future instead of just the dull and dreadful loneliness of mourning a life that no longer exists.
Today, remember that life is a constant celebration of new beginnings, new hope and new promises. Rejoice for that reason alone!
“So let’s keep focused on that goal, those of us who want everything God has for us. If any of you have something else in mind, something less than total commitment, God will clear y0ur blurred vision — you’ll see it yet! Now that we’re on the right track, let’s stay on it!” ~ Philippians 3:15-16 (The Message)