In a recent Washington Post ABC News poll a great majority of the respondents said they were stressed, with more than half reporting serious anxiety. Loss of income or loss of financial security were big concerns. Enemies around the world flexing their muscles; the continual global warming warnings; terrorism; health care; the economy. There is a lot to be scared about. Welcome to the daily world of Divorced/Divorcing women! Continue reading
I’m a woman probably very much like you. A woman who was faced with a divorce after 33 years of marriage. A divorce I didn’t want. A divorce that took my vision of what I thought my life would be and turned it into an embarrassing soap opera I never imagined possible. Essentially I’ve experienced the rejection that can tear you apart from the inside and leave your life in what seems to be an inescapable torture.
At this point you may have come to the realization that getting over divorce is a lot more complicated than you thought. In fact, you may be asking yourself, “How long am I going to feel like this?” When am I going to start feeling better? Why can’t I stop obsessing over this divorce? Why did he do that? Why didn’t I do this? What they are doing now?” Those are normal questions after divorce. Useless, but normal. They will NOT help you in your journey of getting over divorce.
But hopefully you’re also saying, “I want my life back! Help!” Continue reading
After divorce, most of us are faced with the stress of a barrage of challenging emotions and a whole truckload of decisions to be made in the midst of thinking we have to fix everything right now. One concept that has helped me tremendously is that, in reality, I only have to take care of this present moment. We cannot do one thing about the past. It’s done. It’s over. And the future becomes the result of what we are doing now. We are deciding the future by our actions at this very minute. So, all we can actually control is right this second. Continue reading