Finding Your Good Sense After Divorce

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Finding Your Good Sense After Divorce

“Everybody gets so much information all day long that they lose their common sense.” ~ Gertrude Stein

Unlimited Access

Today, we have unlimited access to an overload of information and experts in every field. We can go online and find out about the most esoteric topics. We can get advice from all around the world. And, consequently, we can let our desires and the data hide our own good sense.

Blinded

During a midlife divorce, common sense seems to go out the door because of erratic emotions, denial, pain, and a determination to “make this work!” One of the best things my counselor did for me was to help me see my situation as it was instead of how I wanted it to be.

My love for my husband made me close my eyes to signs that were evident to everyone else. My desire to keep our family together made me ignore reality that kept slapping me in the face. I prayed several times for God to show me where my then-husband’s heart was, and every time, the message was crystal clear.

My problem was, I didn’t want to accept the answer. One time my daughter said, “Mom, stop asking for another sign … haven’t you seen enough already?” My common sense was hindered by how I wanted things to be.

Trust Yourself

Today, decide to trust yourself. Trust your good, old-fashioned common sense. Most things are not nearly as complicated as we make them, so calm yourself, take a deep breath and listen to your own God-inpired inner wisdom.

“GOD gives out Wisdom free, is plainspoken in Knowledge and Understanding. He’s a rich mine of Common Sense for those who live well, a personal bodyguard to the candid and sincere. He keeps his eye on all who live honestly, and pays special attention to his loyally committed ones.” ~ Proverbs 2:6-8 (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she’s been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.