"Packaging sells."  Judith Wills, author of Midlife New Life

One of the problems during the process of a midlife divorce caused by infidelity is that you worry about how you look.  You think, did he want someone else because I look frumpy or I look fat or I look my age?  Usually his decision to have another relationship has more to do with him than it does with you.  We all need to assess our part of the problems in our marriage.  We know that.  But when I see the beautiful, bright, up-to-date, fun, accomplished, good women who come to my support groups or my boot camps, I see clearly that often men leave in spite of the women they're with more than because of them.  But now that you're on the divorce path, it's a good time to re-think how you look.  Being content with your appearance is one of the top five factors that effect well-being.  Are you content with your appearance?  Are women ever content with their appearance?  Women seem to constantly be worried about how they look.  Here's some advice I read not long ago:  "Don't worry about the things you can't change ... curly hair, a prominent nose, being short.  Use those personal traits to create your own unique presence."  Be proud of yourself.  Only be concerned about those things that you have control over.  Like hygiene.  Confidence.  Optimism.  Colors that flatter you.  Styles that feel good and look good.  Good posture.  A great haircut.  New glasses.  Be content with who you are from the inside out.  The inside is the most important part of course, but who we are on the inside needs to shine through and be reflected in how we look on the outside.  That means taking care of this amazing body we've been blessed with.  It means taking care of this "temple of the Spirit of God."  Be grateful.  Treat yourself kindly.  Stay in shape so that you can shine God's light more effectively to your world.  Take the time and make the effort to look your best, and that starts with a smile on your face, a feeling of gratitude in your heart, and choosing to be content with things we cannot change.  We can all do those things right this minute ... our well-being depends on it. 

"So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you:  compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline.  And regardless of what else you put on, wear love.  It's your basic, all-purpose garment.  Never be without it."  Colossians 3:12,14 (The Message)