“Don’t try to second-guess what’s expected of you.  Instead, turn the ironies of fate into an excuse to become who you want to be.”  ~ The Art of Imperfection: Simple Ways to Make Peace With Yourself by Veronique Vienne & Erica Lennard

 What do you want to be?  Now that the “ironies of fate” have dealt you the hand of a midlife divorce, what are you going to do with that?   The author above encourages us to get off of that path of yearning for the past or wishing the divorce hadn’t happened or being bitter that it did happen.  It’s happened.  Your marriage is over.  Now what?  How about using that "catastrophe” to become the person you really want to be.  Use that experience to fine-tune your life skills.  Use it to create a brand new life for yourself.  You know, it’s absolutely possible to have a brand-new shining, shimmering, adventurous, love-filled life! Be ready for it!  Don’t  miss it by being in that hole of regret and remorse and sadness.  There is new life coming!  There is a wide wild rushing stream of clear bright water gushing out of our desert of despair and it’s washing away all of your excuses. You’re getting a new chance.  Be alert.  Be ready to jump in with both feet and find out who your really are!  Everyone will be amazed! 

 “Forget about what’s happened; don’t keep going over old history.  Be alert, be present.  I’m about to do something brand-new.  It’s bursting out!  Don’t you see it?  There it is!  I’m making a road through the desert, rivers in the badlands.”  ~ Isaiah 43: 18-19  (The Message)