"Talk sense to a fool and he calls you foolish."  Euripides

I don't know about you, but I did some pretty ridiculous, foolish things through my midlife divorce ordeal.  Often it was in response to some ridiculous, foolish thing my wasband had done or said.  Instead of calmly and quietly removing myself from the particular situation or conversation, I allowed myself to be engaged by it.  Since I started this mission, I have been saving what R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Women have sent in -- we call then,  "Mind Bogglers -- Ridiculous Things He Said."  One common Mind Boggler is the oft-heard comment ...  "This is not about you."   (Let's see, then, whom would it be about?  Hmm?)  Here's another one:  "I didn't tell you about my affair, because I knew it would make you mad."  Or how about this:  "My girlfriend doesn't have anything to do with me wanting a divorce."  Or "Can you give me some kind of time frame when you will get over this?" Or  "I'm tired of being married."  Here's a great one, "I never really loved you, but I really liked your mom."  My problem was that I thought if I just did or said exactly the right thing in response to those comments, he would come to his senses or he would see the folly of his ways or he would realize what a mistake he was making.  I eventually realized that nothing I said ... nothing I did ... could change the path he had decided on.  Tears didn't.  Shouting didn't.  Letters didn't.  Prayers didn't.  But, still, he would make some absolutely ridiculous comment, and I would respond ... and in the end, I looked as foolish as he did by giving his arguments any stage at all.   Most of your wasbands are doing destructive, foolish things.  They are often on a destructive, foolish road. Don't take that trip with them.  There will be fools enough along the way to keep him company.  You have better places to go.

"Don't respond to the stupidity of a fool; you'll only look foolish yourself."  Proverbs 26:4 (The Message)