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Living In The Moment After Divorce

“I think this is how we are supposed to be in the world –present and in awe. There is ecstasy in paying attention.” ~Anne Lamott, Bird by Bird



Finding Appreciation

In the middle of divorce, life sometimes seems dull and dark, and sadly unworthy of our attention or appreciation. In fact, often on this divorce journey, we can only notice the devastation … the ugliness … and the pain.

Being aware of the moment is one of the keys to living a vibrant life. When you stop and think of the absolute miracle that is this present moment, you can’t help but be awestruck and amazed.

Think of your body at this very moment (regardless of the fact that we probably all could stand to lose a few pounds, and tone up the pounds we have.) Think about the beautiful complexities of how your body works. How your sense of smell and taste work as you enjoy your coffee, how your eyes work as you watch the sunrise, how your mind works as you read this blog. Miracles.

It’s only in paying attention to life that we fully appreciate it. It’s only in really noticing the incredible beauty of some simple flowers sitting on the table in the sunlight that we can actually be awe-struck.

The Miracle Of The Moment

The sad thing is we have grown so used to the simple, daily miracles of life that we often miss them altogether. And then add on the top of our inattention, add our hyper-focus on our midlife divorce. Suddenly we are not amazed at life, but instead are full of fear and insecurity, anger and sadness.

Life’s challenging experiences are an integral part of our existence, but let’s make sure those things don’t hide and cover the magnificence of the precious shining moments before us every single day.

So, today, regardless of the fact that we are in the middle of recovering from the hurt and heartache of divorce, let’s take time to pay attention to the miracle of the moment and be awed anew by it. Life is made up of the moments. It’s only in noticing their simple but extravagant beauty that we can actually appreciate the glory all around us. Let’s all pay attention today.

“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes.” ~ Matthew 6:34 (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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