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Are You Being a Downer?

“When people come to speak to me, whatever they say, I am struck by a kind of incandescence in them …”

 ~ Ben Witherington III

I have a book by Ben Witherington III called Incandescence.  I like that word,  “incandescence.” It makes me think of a shimmering glow surrounding something or someone. That’s what I want to have. That’s what I want to be … incandescent.

I think every person alive has a certain incandescence about them. We were made to shine. We are given the bright light of God’s Spirit when we trust in Him. We don’t have to work so hard to be light on our own, because all we really have to do is let the Spirit’s light flow through us.

Whatever you think about God and the spiritual part of life, I think you will agree that there are people who brighten a room when they come in. People whose smile brings encouragement and hope to others. That’s how I want to be.

Going through the trauma of divorce, there are bound to be many tears, and you will likely be angrier than you’ve ever been. But let’s graciously move beyond that as soon as possible. After awhile, we each need to get back to being our best incandescent self. Share your discouragements and frustrations as you need to with the MDRcommunity, a support group, or with a trusted friend. But out in the bigger world, let’s get back to shining as soon as we can!

“If I make you light-bearers, you don’t think I’m going to hide you under a bucket, do you? I’m putting you on a light stand. Now that I’ve put you there on a hilltop, on a light stand –shine! Keep open house; be generous with your lives.”
 ~ Matthew 5:15-16a (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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