The Suffering Of Divorce

“… An individual needs suffering and misfortune: they compel the deepening of the inner life and generate a spiritual upsurge.”  ~Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, The Gulag Archipelago Comfort The Gulag Archipelago is required reading in Russia. It is the account of one man’s victory over unbelievably horrible circumstances, and his journey to a spiritual freedom and power that is only [...]

What Is A Gray Divorce?

According to some sources, Gray Divorce simply refers to divorce during a couple’s older years after long-term marriages. In other studies “late-life divorce” is defined as divorce for couples in the 50-64 age range, while others described couples 65+ years old, and especially those 65+ who were also retired as gray divorcees. For our purposes [...]

Your Money After Divorce

“Psychologists tell us that when a woman becomes financially independent, she gains self-assurance and peace of mind, and her relationships become healthier and more mature.” ~ Barbara Stanny, Prince Charming Isn’t Coming Who Will Take Care Of It Now? Myths die hard: Prince Charming is going to come to my rescue; someone else will take [...]

Accept What Is & Give Thanks

“Life is accepting what is and working from that.” ~ Gloria Naylor, African American novelist and educator The Apostle Paul in his letter to Timothy makes this statement: “Everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with Thanksgiving.” He was specifically referencing food in this passage. Some [...]

Why We Cling To Nasty People

“You may know someone, someone you consider to be a good person, who puts up with another who makes her life miserable.”  ~ Jay Carter, Nasty People: How to Stop Being Hurt by Them Without Becoming One of Them Being A "Fixer" I lead RADiCAL divorce recovery support groups and the stories are heartbreaking. Early on, the [...]

Normal After Divorce?

"Masquerading as a normal person day after day is exhausting."
  ~ Anonymous, Have Fun Stand Out! What is "normal" anyway? Most days I feel like anything but normal. I think if we each fully grasped how infinitely above normal we really are, we would be smiling every minute. We are each an original; a bright and shining star unlike [...]

Misery, Pain, Change And Divorce

"The day inevitably comes when the part of me that wants health more than sickness, or joy more than sorrow, or serenity more than turmoil wakes up and demands I pay attention. Finally, I am willing to try something different because the pain has become too much for me to continue. Then, and only then, [...]

After Divorce Eating

“Take time to appreciate the food on your plate. Notice the colors and textures. Take a bite. Slowly experience the tastes on your tongue. Put down your fork and savor.” ~Melinda Beck, Wall Street Journal/Health Journal  Food is constantly on our minds. But often, food loses its taste when you’re facing a midlife divorce. We eat [...]