Smash Something After Divorce

"Be outrageous -- and slam that door! As you do so remind yourself that your recklessness is nothing but the expression of a cosmic urge to challenge the general tendency of things to ebb toward a lukewarm and boring equilibrium."
 ~ The Art of Imperfection

 I'm not advocating for a state of constant agitation, or flying [...]

Divorce & Revenge In The Digital Age

"It's simple: The Internet turns us into a mob. 'We know that in a mob people will do socially unacceptable things they would never otherwise do ...'” ~ Elizabeth Englander, director of the Massachusetts Aggression Reduction Center of Bridgewater State College It's Easy Don't hit the send button! Many divorces today are the result of infidelity. Having a [...]

How Do You Measure Success After Divorce?

"The only thing that stands between a man and what he wants from life is often merely the will to try it, and the faith to believe that it is possible." ~ Richard M. DeVos, billionaire entrepreneur Survival Steps We can't succeed at anything until we have the expectation that we CAN succeed. There will [...]

Divorce Overwhelm & Financial Initiation

“Overwhelm is an inevitable part of our initiation into the ranks of the financially enlightened.” ~ Barbara Stanny, Prince Charming Isn’t Coming: How Women Get Smart About Money  Changes Overwhelm is an unavoidable part of midlife divorce — and not just because of the financial uncertainty and chaos. So many changes are coming at us that [...]

Growing Into Ourselves After Divorce

“Growing as wild women involves breaking out of cages, boxes, stereotypes, categories, and captivity. It involves standing tall, laughing loudly, and being who we really are.” ~ SARK, Succulent Wild Woman The Discomfort Of Growth Growing is uncomfortable and often feels perilous. And the deep-level of rejection we experience in a midlife divorce can make the [...]