“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for circumstances they want; if they can’t find them, they make them.” ~ George Bernard Shaw
The Blame Game
Blaming is easy. But it never really gets us anywhere. We blame ourselves, our circumstances, our lack of money, and our divorce. But the truth is, whatever we are blaming for our unhappiness and lack of fulfillment is not the real problem.
If we are not happy, the problem is us. That probably sounds calloused and harsh in the middle of a divorce. It is so easy to think that if only the circumstances in our lives were different, then we could be content. We would be okay. But in reality, if we’re not happy regardless of our circumstances, we probably won’t be happy when things are going our way.
Living a Happy Life
It is undeniable that circumstances do affect us. And everyone on this earth has to deal with hard, unpleasant and unwanted circumstances at some point. However, consider this: Researchers compared the happiness levels of people who had recently won with paraplegics. After their initial adjustment period, the overall happiness quotients were about the same in both groups. What made the difference was what kind of people they were, not what happened to them.
Our victories depend on our attitude, not on outside influences. It’s hard to do sometimes, but we have to take responsibility for our own joy. Blaming someone or something else doesn’t gain us victory. Making the choice to take control of our own circumstances does.
“Yet amid all these things we are more than conquerors and gain a surpassing victory through Him Who loved us.” ~ Romans 8:37 (The Amplified Bible)