“As with language, so with life: less is often more. The quality of life is marked by what you can do without and still do well. The best things in life aren’t things. Simplify. Thoreau subscribed to this line of thinking. So did Buddha, Lao-tzu, and Jesus.”~Robert Fulghum, All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten
Reevaluating Our Lives
It’s hard not to worry about every single aspect of your life after divorce. If the divorce has left you in a place of real financial hardship, things can feel especially worrisome. When your standard of living drops suddenly and dramatically, it can be very difficult to give up things you have become accustomed to.
The upside of losing everything is that it is an opportunity for us to completely reevaluate our understanding of life and refine our thinking.
Financial hardships can serve as a gateway to becoming better, more grounded, more real and more content people. Those things we’ve grown accustomed to never brought us real security. We might have thought they did, but they didn’t and they never can.
Our divorce and change in financial circumstances may teach us life lessons far more valuable than the false sense of comfort we got from the superficial stuff we once possessed.
This world and its trappings are never secure. They can be taken away in a fire; we can lose them in a tornado. We can lose our health, our house, our haute couture.
But if we learn what is really important, what is really lasting, what is truly unshakable, it allows us to never be afraid of external situations again. Stuff is just stuff.
Things (no matter how nice or how expensive) will not bring us security or happiness. Having a relationship with God and making Him the solid rock on which we can build everything else, does. And when we truly put God first, a relationship that we can choose, we will have more than enough of everything else. That’s a liberating truth.
“So don’t worry at all about having enough food and clothing. Why be like the heathen? For they take pride in all these things and are deeply concerned about them. But your heavenly Father already knows perfectly well that you need them. And He will gladly give them to you if you give Him first place in your life. So don’t be anxious about tomorrow. God will take care of your tomorrow, too. Live one day at a time.” ~ Matthew 6:31-34 (NIV)