Accept What Is & Give Thanks


“Life is accepting what is and working from that.” ~ Gloria Naylor, African American novelist and educator

The Apostle Paul in his letter to Timothy makes this statement: “Everything created by God is good, and nothing is to be rejected if it is received with Thanksgiving.”

He was specifically referencing food in this passage. Some people thought it was permissible to eat certain foods, and others thought it was sinful. Paul’s point was that we get easily distracted by the nuances of life, and forget to thank the Creator for everything He has provided for us.

Our Eternal Good

I don’t think we are expected to be thankful per se for our divorce. But we can be thankful for what God is going to do with it for our eternal good.

Divorce grieves God’s heart, just as much as it grieves ours. In fact, He designed marriage to be an everlasting covenant. But God has also granted us free will, and sometimes people exercise that freedom by making decisions that cause extreme pain.

We can’t do anything about other’s wrong decisions. But we can choose to be thankful because the big picture is that God has promised to use every single thing in our life for our good and His glory. Period.


So the key seems to be accepting what happened, and letting God use what happened. Like Gloria Naylor says, “Life is accepting what is,” and I would add, and letting God work from that. He will. In fact, He is already. Accept whatever it is today. Then celebrate and be thankful for what God is doing with it.

“Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.” ~ 1 Thessalonians 3:16-18 (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.


  1. Jean July 19, 2016 at 5:38 am - Reply

    As a Christian I felt at first I had let Him down and my family. At age 68 and 41 years of marriage my life crashed. My faith has brought me out of the pit for I know God’s love is unconditional. Forgiveness is what I’m working on. How could he just throw 40 happy years away. Three wonderful children and six grandchildren who he never talks to or sees.
    I will have a future too with His will for my life.

  2. Diane February 6, 2017 at 11:01 pm - Reply

    Similar situation…44 years of marriage and I am 65. Just beginning the process, the statement about wrong decisions really rang true. Took me a while to realize my husband was willing to sacrifice so much to have this new much younger woman in his life. But he he is!

    So beginning a new phase and excited about the possibilities! I will do a better job of finding a true companion when I am ready to try again.

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