Am I normal during this divorce?

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There is no such thing as a normal divorce.  Or being normal during divorce.  There is nothing normal about it. Even though there are reactions and experiences that are similar during this journey, we can’t be normal … now or ever, really.

I read something a while back in a little book simply entitled, “have fun.”  It said “Masquerading as a normal person day after day is exhausting.”  Here’s the deal:  If we all realized how infinitely ABOVE normal we really are, we would be amazed and in awe every minute.  Each of us is a one-of-a-kind original.  A bright shining star unlike any other.

Just think for a moment that this conglomeration of atoms that is me is the only one put together just like me.  I have unique gifts, unique talents, a unique look, a unique personality …. I am the only person on this earth like me!  The same is true for you.  Isn’t that incredible?

Forget about fitting in.  Stand out!  forget about being like everyone else.  Shine like the star you are!  I believe in God.  I think that God allows for this amazing diversity for a purpose.  I am put on this earth at this specific time in this specific place for a specific reason that only I can fill.

Why?  I am the only person on this earth specifically gifted to do what I am doing here and now.  I believe that God knows me, and when I learn to trust him, he gives me a brand new name and a bright new purpose.  I have a specific, soul-expanding, heart-stirring job that only I can do.

Even if you don’t believe in God, read the words below and understand that we are each a stunning gift, a rare jewel, a delight, a unique miracle.  Realize that.  Recognize that … especially now, during this divorce.   Trying to be normal in the light of who we really are is not only exhausting, but impossible.

“You’ll get a brand new name straight from the mouth of GOD.  You’ll be a stunning crown in the palm of GOD’s hand, a jeweled gold cup held high in the hand of your God.  Now more will anyone call you Rejected, and your country will no more be called Ruined.  You’ll be called My Delight … because GOD delights in you.”  Isaiah 62 (The Message)

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

One Comment

  1. Patti October 27, 2014 at 3:25 pm - Reply

    Your blog has helped me start thinking about a recovery plan.thank you

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