An amazing transaction – try it



“Thankfulness takes the sting out of adversity.”  Sarah Young.

Please don’t stop reading this because you think no amount of pretending or mind games or positive thinking can take the sting out of your divorce.  Keep reading and then try the exchange that is suggested. Keep practicing it through this whole “Thanksgiving” weekend.

This is something I read this morning in a little book by Sarah Young.  I think it’s perfect for every day, but especially around this holiday of giving thanks and especially if you’re going through divorce.  Giving thanks is particularly difficult to do if this is your first holiday after the divorce and your children are with your wasband (and maybe his girlfriend/girlfiend) on this day.  (I cried all the way to my parents’ house my first Thanksgiving by myself.) You may be spending the holiday by yourself or with your parents and family or with friends.  Whatever the circumstances that surround this time of Thanksgiving, think about the words below.  They are true.  The transaction they represent never fails.  If you do nothing else these next few days, practice this even though you think nothing can bring you joy during this life change of divorce:

“Thankfulness takes the sting out of adversity.  This is why I (God/Jesus/Spirit) have instructed you to give thanks for everything.  There is an element of mystery in this transaction:  You give Me thanks (regardless of your feelings), and I give you Joy (regardless of your circumstances).   This is a spiritual act of obedience – at times, blind obedience.  To people who don’t know Me intimately, it can seem irrational and even impossible to thank Me for heartrending hardships.  Nonetheless, those who obey Me in this way are invariably blessed, even though difficulties may remain.

Thankfulness opens your heart to My Presence and your mind to My thoughts.  You may still be in the same place, with the same set of circumstances, but it is as if a light has been switched on, enabling you to see from My perspective.  It is the Light of My Presence that removes the sting from adversity.”

“Thank God because he’s good, because his love never quits.”  Psalm 118:1 (The Message)


About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.