Sometimes during divorce, it’s hard to be thankful. All we can see is everything we have lost and everything that is wrong with our life. Life is messy and complicated. We may be sad and angry. This is exactly the time we need to practice gratitude. Regardless of what is happening in our
About Suzy BrownSuzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.
I had never in my worst nightmare thought at 53 years old, I would be googling “how to get your confidence back after divorce” or “regaining confidence after divorce.” I didn’t even believe in divorce! Plus we had a good marriage, great kids, grandkids on the way and good things all over the place.
When I was growing up, hardly anyone was divorced. At least it seemed like that. Divorce was especially rare for people who were in the pews on Sunday mornings. Divorce in the church community was usually swept under the rug. The Church handled divorce by ignoring it or condemning it. It was looked down
Self care during separation and divorce is what I emphasize first to anyone who comes to Midlife Divorce Recovery for help. There is never a time when we should be focused on taking care of ourselves more than when we are going through divorce. The divorce process is exhausting and overwhelming. The mental and
Alcohol abuse, or Alcohol Use Disorder (AUD), can destroy marriages and create havoc in all family interactions. Alcoholism makes existing relationship issues more difficult, and problems in the relationship can then cause alcohol abuse to increase. All can lead to eventual thoughts of divorcing an alcoholic. Almost every day, I get messages from women
When I first realized that my marriage was not going to survive, I didn’t want to tell family or friends I was getting a divorce. I was embarrassed. I was ashamed. I had been determined not to be one of those divorced people that I always felt sorry for, but never knew what to
When I was first divorced, online divorce dating (or any other kind of after-divorce dating) was absolutely the furthest thing from my mind! In fact, I could not even imagine being in any romantic relationship because I was still doing the hard work of grieving several years after my divorce. Honestly, most other normal
By the time I was even thinking about dating after divorce, I had as little contact with my ex-husband as possible. I had absolutely no desire to think about him at all, much less share anything personal, like introducing him to a new boyfriend! (By the way, the word “boyfriend” was hard for me
Most of us, when we get married never think about how to prepare for divorce. In my work, I have heard about spouses who left a note on the counter, or sent a text, or after a trip or date night told their partner that they weren’t happy and needed to find themselves and
I remember reading somewhere that “we don’t miss our ex when we leave, but we do miss our ex when they start moving on!” If we are the one who left, we often think things may be looking up for us. But once our ex wife starts dating or getting herself and her life