When I discovered my then husband’s first affair, we had been married 10 years. I was shocked! After the rage, sadness and despair settled down a bit, I wondered, “Can our marriage survive infidelity?” “Can I ever really get over this awful sense of betrayal? Can I ever trust him after his affair and
About Suzy BrownSuzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.
Even facing that question, “should I get a divorce,” is agonizing. Most of us don’t want to be divorced. We try everything we can think of NOT to have to answer that life-changing question, “Should I leave my husband?” I never dreamed that I would be a divorced woman after 33 years of
First of all, most wives are not looking for signs of a cheating husband. Most of us are busy with family and life in general. We’re not even thinking about tell-tale signs that our husband is cheating. We’re focused on helping him, getting kids to practice, making sure homework is done, working and making
I remember how difficult it was for me to “Get Over” my ex-husband … whatever that really means. I tried to forget about my ex-husband, but the more I tried not to think about him, the more I thought about him. Like the more you try not to think about the candy in the
Co-parenting with the stepmother of our children can be a bigger challenge than co-parenting with our ex-husband. A Stepmother can have a way of overstepping her boundaries whether she realizes it or not. Whether she is “the other woman” who was involved with your ex-husband before your divorce, or the “new woman” who has
There are many reasons for feeling divorce guilt or shame. If we caused the end of the relationship because of addictions, abuse or adultery, those are valid reasons to feel guilt. True sorrow and remorse should be felt and expressed. Amends should be made as much as possible. But many who come to Midlife
When we are first going through the stages of divorce grief, we wonder how we will survive at all. It’s like trying to repair the damage of a tornado, a tsunami, a devastating wildfire and a level 5 hurricane all rolled into one. It’s a loss of so much … so much time …
With more and more divorces happening in midlife or late life, that frequently means that empty nest and divorce are happening at the same time more often, too. Midlife Divorce occurs when we are experiencing other big life losses: Our physical bodies are changing … menopause for women, lower testosterone for men. Our work
At first, after divorce most women are worried about surviving period! Trying to get your sexy back doesn’t usually enter your thinking until later because you’re worried you might not ever get that far! After the divorce, I, for one, had absolutely no desire to be with other men other than friends and family.
Loneliness is part of every divorce. Even though those lonely feelings after divorce can be the worst feelings we have ever felt, they are normal. Normal or not, the loneliness can be so painful that we sometimes wonder how long we can survive those crushing feelings of rejection and isolation. In the back of