Get the women in your family, or your RADiCAL group, or a group of friends and find a self-defense class. It could save your life! Be alert and be careful. And while you’re at it back up your computer.
“You don’t make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas.” Shirley Chisholm, Congresswoman
Shoot! I hate to admit it, but a couple of years back I spent some time standing on the sidelines whimpering and complaining. In fact, I was pretty put out about what happened. I was visiting my parents in Wichita (Yes! The city I grew up in and home of the Shocker’s basketball team that is going to the NCAA Final Four!) and helping my mom celebrate her birthday. I was carrying out my last load of stuff to put in my car when a white SUV with two middle-aged white women pulled up, jumped out, grabbed by purse and my computer bag and sped off … even after my yelling and trying to get them to stop! They got my laptop, my phone, my daily planner, a notebook full of notes, and of course all of that stuff in my purse … all of those things that take a day each to replace. (Aargh!) The license plates on their car were fake, and they weren’t answering when I tried to call my phone which they had. I wanted my stuff back, but I also wanted to tell them that there is a better way to live than that. I wanted them to know that there is a more fulfilling, fun, good way to live than that. How terrible it must be to have to find someone to rob everyday to keep up with your drug habit or whatever they were doing. It took me forever (well, obviously not forever, but it took up precious days trying to put right all the disruption they caused. Some of the things I will never be able to replace. Here is something wonderful, though, just about a month before this happened, my computer guy convinced me to get a back up system for everything on my computer. I did and it saved me in so many ways. Seriously, I might not still be doing this if I had lost five years of work and 5 years of contacts with you all. Here’s my advice … never leave your purse or your computer in an unlocked car even for a minute! Get a back-up system for your computer and have all of your credit card and other important information recorded somewhere. Also, pray for those two women (and their families) that they find a better way of life somehow.
“…be careful how you act; these are difficult days. Don’t be fools; be wise: make the most of every opportunity you have for doing good.” Ephesians 5:15-16
Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.