Be Your Own Iron Lady After Divorce

2017-01-23T13:02:09+00:00

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“Look at a day when you are supremely satisfied at the end. It’s not a day when you lounge around doing nothing; it’s when you’ve had everything to do, and you’ve done it.” ~ Margaret Thatcher

Recently, on a lonely Saturday night I decided to rent Iron Lady, a movie about the life of Margaret Thatcher. She will go down in history as a role model for all women. She lived life with passion and was driven to serve others unselfishly and with boldness.

I particularly loved one quote from the movie: “Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become your character. And watch your character, for it becomes your destiny. “

Our words are powerful. What we speak to ourselves will set us on a path to our futures. No doubt when I went through my divorce two years ago after being married for 25 years, I reeled in negativity. Oh, I was so close to wallowing in my self-pity.  But at a point, one must change her thought pattern. If you can change your thoughts, you will change your heart. You will be able to forgive. And then, you will begin to see your value.

I started my college career at the age of 48 and I just earned my Associates Degree. I will be an educator in two years.  Not only that, but I am wearing a shiny set of silver braces, and I changed my hairstyle. It is all part of the “new me plan.”

I could have continued to focus on being thrown aside and simply accepted the “reject” stamp that marked me. I could have become a bitter old woman that nobody wanted to be around. But I refused, and you should too. By no means, do I have it all together. I still have hard days and I occasionally allow myself to have a pity party. But through my faith in God, I have the strength to move forward. Press on, friend, and rent Iron Lady for some inspiration!

Leanne Lynn

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. ~ 2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV)

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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