Best Divorce Attitude: Don’t Mess With Me

Best Divorce Attitude: Don’t Mess With Me


Divorce sometimes makes us feel weak, wimpy, weepy, nervous and afraid.  During my divorce, I lost my confidence.  I was worried I couldn’t support myself.  I wondered why my ex-husband decided I wasn’t good enough any more and why he needed a new love in his life.  Not exactly thinking that produces a positive, strong attitude.

Here’s something from a little book I found that made me re-think my attitude:  “The best accessory is an attitude.  Wear it as if you mean it.”  The name of the book is Normal is Just a Setting on the Dryer … and other lessons from the real/real world.  I love the title and I love the little life tips in the book.

But seriously, Do you know anyone with “an attitude?”  With a “don’t mess with me!” attitude?  I have.  And I don’t know about you, but I tend to stay out of their way a bit.  I give them space.  I don’t want to be a person that other people don’t want to be around or someone who others have to tiptoe around, but I do like the concept of having “an attitude.”

The issue is deciding what kind of attitude I will have.  I want people to know I am confident.  I want people to know I can’t be pushed around.  I want people to know that I will survive and I will be strong and my life will be absolutely wonderful  …. no matter what anyone else is doing to keep me from that.

Let everyone else do what they want.  I finally decided, let my wasband and his girlfiend act as small and selfish and ugly as they want.  They will not destroy me.  I will be better than ever!  My attitude comes from doing right and being confident that God’s unfathomable blessings and power are mine now and forever, no matter what anyone else is doing!

“Be strong and courageous.  The Lord himself goes before you and will be with you;  he will never leave you nor forsake you.  Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.”  Deuteronomy 31:6a, 8.

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.