Christian Divorce

"We should be more interested in being faithful than in being comfortable." ~ Randy Harris, speaker, writer, professor of theology, philosophy and religion Be Fearless In one of the great lectures I attended at a conference in California, the speaker, Randy Harris made the point that God-followers should be not only peaceful, but that we should

"Tension comes from not knowing the outcome." ~ Randy Harris Facing Crisis I recently came across some notes I took from a lecture by Randy Harris at a Christian conference where I was presenting on divorce recovery. His talk centered around the subject of peace.  The big question I left asking myself was: "Does being a Christian give

In The Middle of Difficulty Have you ever heard of the saying: "waiting for life to be lovely before you start to live is like waiting for the river to run out before you cross"? I want life to be lovely all the time. I want things to go my way. I want my children, my

"Leave room for the unexpected." ~ Sue Bender, Plain and Simple Wisdom Surprised by Joy Surprised by Joy by C.S. Lewis is the story of his journey to belief in God. Though he experienced inexplicable joy at the end of his road of discovery, his story was full of tears, doubt and discouragement along the way; much

"Asking for help calls on your faith ... asking for support involves trusting ... asking for miracles is instinctive and can be nourished." ~ SARK, author, artist, incest survivor We All Need Help During a midlife divorce we all need help, but often times we are hesitant to ask for what we need, outright. We think people

I'm a worrier. This morning as I had my coffee and read the Wall Street Journal, I literally held up a section of the paper and said aloud, "God, this world is so f*%#ed up!" I usually don't use that word, but It seemed to be the best word to describe the overwhelming sense of sadness,

"'Then the prophecies of the old songs have turned out to be true!' said Bilbo. 'Of course,' said Gandalf. 'You don't really suppose, do you that all of your adventures and escapes were managed by pure luck, just for your sole benefit?'" ~ J.R.R. Tolkien, The Hobbit Go Adventuring I love The Hobbit. Bilbo Baggins' story begins

"Midnight in Nowhere ... could be a million towns ..." ~ Brian MacDonald Lonely Nights When I first started in my divorce recovery work, I did a radio show called Midnight in Nowhere. The name comes from a song about the grieving of lost love. When I first was asked to be on the show, I thought

"The basic difference between an ordinary (wo)man and a warrior is that a warrior takes everything as a challenge, while an ordinary (wo)man takes everything either as a blessing or a curse." ~ Carlos Castaneda, Anthropologist Growing While Grieving My mom wrote me a letter once that said, "things we call hardships or trials (or curses)

Many of you may be reading this because your husband “cheated” on you. But the bigger questions we may need to ask ourselves is, “Am I cheating on myself? Do I value myself? Do I feel worthy?” “Remember, when you put yourself at the bottom of the priority list you are cheating not just