Divorce and Children

With more and more divorces happening in midlife or late life, that frequently means that empty nest and divorce are happening at the same time more often, too. Midlife Divorce occurs when we are experiencing other big life losses: Our physical bodies are changing … menopause for women, lower testosterone for men. Our work

When I started researching a question that often comes up when couples are divorcing -- When to tell your children about divorce? -- I realized that we had mostly done everything wrong!   In my own experience and from years of helping women through divorce, I know that unless children are very young, they

What a complicated question! There are hundreds of books dedicated to this very question and obviously most parents are very concerned about the effects of divorce on children. I however prefer to think of it a little differently. Instead of reading about what’s going to “happen” to your children, I believe it’s more important

Get Active! Without a doubt, one of the most transformative ways to get through your divorce and be a more effective parent is to become an active person. During my Mom's recovery period after the divorce, I could always tell the days when she missed a workout. She would be more sensitive to random songs that

Although divorce is a challenge for everyone involved, there are many ways you can make the transition easier for your children. In general, children are adaptable and will adjust to the new situation, but even the most resilient people can become overwhelmed when too much is thrown at them at once. Don't Make Too

At its core, a loyalty conflict occurs when two parties expect a third party to side with them over the other because they either disagree or don't like each other. Vying for their child(ren)'s loyalty may be one of the most prevalent challenges for parents during a divorce and the effects of divorce on children can be tremendous.

...Probably, yes! The divorce process can be confusing and extremely difficult for everyone involved. Often when someone is under such an immense amount of stress and frustration (...midlife divorce), they can react in regrettable ways. As a child of divorce, I witnessed many incidents that my parents probably wish they could erase from my memory. And

One of the biggest issues I keep hearing parents talk about during divorce is that their children won't express their feelings or open up. When I began thinking back on my time during high school, sort of the high-time of the divorce "fireworks," I was one of those children who "wasn't opening up." I realize every

I was about 15 when my parents officially got divorced. It wasn't a pretty divorce, but I'm sure it wasn't the worst. It took about three years of struggle for my Mom to finally call it quits and put an end to the marriage. Then a few years after that of very painful rebuilding