Divorce and Children

As a licensed marriage, family, and child therapist, I regularly hear my clients say, “my parents should have gotten divorced.” This is usually followed by statements like, “They fought all the time”; “there was always a lot of yelling when I was growing up”; “I don’t know why they ever got together, they have

Divorce is devastating enough on its own without adding the complications that caring for a special needs child will bring. When facing the dissolution of a marriage, the opposing parties will already have to decide on splitting resources and property, alimony, legal fees, custody and visitation, and more. When a special needs child is

Divorce isn’t a pleasurable trip for anyone, and more often than not, children get caught right in the middle of it.  I know, as a parent, you’re often going through an unbelievably painful experience yourself. Even though I watched my Mom spend several years feeling unbelievably sad and pissed and worried about the divorce,

Co-parenting with the stepmother of our children can be a bigger challenge than co-parenting with our ex-husband. Especially if the stepmother is “the other woman” who was involved with our ex-husband while we were still married, accepting her as stepmother to our children just sucks! It adds fuel to the fire if she is

With more and more divorces happening in midlife or late life, that frequently means that empty nest and divorce are happening at the same time more often, too. Midlife Divorce occurs when we are experiencing other big life losses: Our physical bodies are changing … menopause for women, lower testosterone for men. Our work

When I started researching a question that often comes up when couples are divorcing -- When to tell your children about divorce? -- I realized that we had mostly done everything wrong!   In my own experience and from years of helping women through divorce, I know that unless children are very young, they

What a complicated question! There are hundreds of books dedicated to this very question and obviously most parents are very concerned about the effects of divorce on children. I however prefer to think of it a little differently. Instead of reading about what’s going to “happen” to your children, I believe it’s more important