Row with the Oars You’ve Got After Divorce


"Everyone must row with the oars he has."    English Proverb Okay, if you're reading this, you are probably going through a divorce.  Probably a divorce you didn't want, didn't expect and don't like.  Yep.  You're in a boat you don't want to be in.  And you've got some kind of oars.  Some of us have nice,

Row with the Oars You’ve Got After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

Get a Life – Especially After Divorce


"The best beauty product is to have a life.  A real life.  With challenges, disappointments, stress, and laughter."  From The Art of Imperfection by Veronique Vienne I love that little book called The Art of Imperfection.  None of us is perfect, and this book makes me feel okay about that.  The section from which the

Get a Life – Especially After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

The Infidelity Website and the Other Woman


Okay, how many recognize the moral bankruptcy of an infidelity site?  What have we come to?  Who thinks this is okay? The last I heard, according to a huge study, more than 90% of respondents from all over the world, across all cultures think that adultery/infidelity is “always wrong.”  And yet a website with the

The Infidelity Website and the Other Woman2019-01-02T20:55:27+00:00

Wild Women After Divorce


“Growing as wild women (especially after divorce) involves breaking out of cages, boxes, stereotypes, categories, and captivity.  It involves standing tall, laughing loudly, and being who we really are.”    SARK – Author of  Succulent Wild Woman Growing is uncomfortable and scary and feels perilous. Especially when someone we love tells us by his actions

Wild Women After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

Define Yourself After Divorce


Your divorce is absolutely one of the most challenging transitions you will ever make.  But, stop and think about it a minute:  life at it's best is a constant adjustment.  All transitions are challenging. They require a redefinition of who we are. First we leave home as a college student or we move into our

Define Yourself After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

Father’s Day


It's Not Your Responsibility Because it's Father's Day, many of you are probably dealing with feelings of guilt and sadness about what has been lost in your children's lives. One important thing to remember, however, is that it's not your responsibility to "fix" Father's Day for your wasband. You most likely have spent many

Father’s Day2018-01-23T00:49:22+00:00

Divorce and the Promise of Christmas


"The most amazing part of going through the darkness of divorce is the sense of joy and liberation when you move past it and into the life you were born for." ~Margot Thompson It's Christmas eve. Many of you are struggling with the darkness of divorce during Christmas. The darkness of despair. The darkness of

Divorce and the Promise of Christmas2023-08-26T13:19:21+00:00

Divorce, Power and Poise


Often in my own midlife divorce recovery process, I often felt powerless and I sometimes did not demonstrate poise. I demonstrated things like: wildly out of control, undignified, ugly, loud, infuriated.  Divorce is sort of the antithesis of poise. Webster defines poise with words like these: "balance, stability, ease, dignity of manner."  For me, dignity of

Divorce, Power and Poise2023-08-28T01:33:55+00:00

Are you letting divorce make you bitter? Don’t!


AAAHHHH! Adversity! Don't you just love adversity?  Aren't you just so happy to be struggling with the pain your divorce? Of course not! In a big fat word ... NO! Human beings don't go looking for adversity. We don't have to. We run from it.   But for all human beings, it always somehow finds us on

Are you letting divorce make you bitter? Don’t!2023-08-11T18:44:29+00:00

Start a RADiCAL women’s divorce support group of your own


During divorce, you need ongoing support from women who understand what you're going through.  And during the holidays during divorce, you need extra support. "At all costs, you mustn't withdraw because a marriage has failed. During that time of stress you need friends and family as never before, and if you let them nurse you

Start a RADiCAL women’s divorce support group of your own2021-10-06T21:39:35+00:00