Very, Very Sad Morning – Please Read This


Last night I had four conversations scheduled with women from around the country who want to get over their divorces.  I finished up close to 10:00 pm.  I started in again at 7:00 am taking more calls and giving encouragement.  Some were especially worried about the upcoming holidays.  With each woman, we talked about

Very, Very Sad Morning – Please Read This2021-07-12T20:45:16+00:00

The Divorce Hole – The first step to getting out


“If you find yourself in a hole, the first thing to do is stop digging.” From Normal is Just a Setting on the Dryer by Adair Lara Sometimes divorce is like one big giant hole and you are in the bottom digging away … and if you’re like me, probably sobbing harder and harder the

The Divorce Hole – The first step to getting out2018-01-10T18:10:43+00:00

Loneliness Research and Divorce


According to research we did a few years back, loneliness is one of the top three concerns of women going through divorce .... along with children and finances.  For me, during my divorce journey I was surrounded by wonderful children and family and friends and a church, but I still felt this heavy oppressive

Loneliness Research and Divorce2019-01-02T20:51:56+00:00

Being Nice is Overrated –


  "If you just set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing."  Margaret Thatcher At my first Midlife Divorce Recovery Boot Camp, one of the speakers was Barrie Arachtingi, a psychologist. Her presentation was great! One of the things she said that

Being Nice is Overrated –2015-09-15T19:40:53+00:00

Do you really want to get better after Divorce? – This works


“Life Lesson #3: There is no rational reason to remain a pessimist in a world that is full of so many miracles.” Karen Salmansohn in Enough, Dammit – A cynics guide to finally getting what you want out of life Whether you, like me, believe in a personal, loving, caring God or not, there

Do you really want to get better after Divorce? – This works2019-12-02T19:59:53+00:00

Long Holiday Weekends During or After Divorce


Empowered after divorce - Even on a long holiday weekend "When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless.  But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better."  Pauline R. Kezer, Institute of Politics at Harvard Sometimes on your journey

Long Holiday Weekends During or After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

Row with the Oars You’ve Got After Divorce


"Everyone must row with the oars he has."    English Proverb Okay, if you're reading this, you are probably going through a divorce.  Probably a divorce you didn't want, didn't expect and don't like.  Yep.  You're in a boat you don't want to be in.  And you've got some kind of oars.  Some of us have nice,

Row with the Oars You’ve Got After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

Get a Life – Especially After Divorce


"The best beauty product is to have a life.  A real life.  With challenges, disappointments, stress, and laughter."  From The Art of Imperfection by Veronique Vienne I love that little book called The Art of Imperfection.  None of us is perfect, and this book makes me feel okay about that.  The section from which the

Get a Life – Especially After Divorce2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

Divorce – An Agonizing Choice


  "If we are abused by those who matter to us, it's difficult to give up hope that eventually they will treat us well." ~From Blues ain't nothing but a good soul feeling bad by Sheldon Kopp Abuse is difficult to define. It can be subtle messages that you are not enough. It can be

Divorce – An Agonizing Choice2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00

The Real War on Women


This morning I did an interview on a local Kansas City, MO NewsProgram - Fox 4 News. Here's the link to that interview: My points about the Ashley Madison Infidelity Site Hack. The Ashley Madison Infidelity site has 37+ million members.  The site has numerous safety and security awards,  "100% discreet."  Well, it turns

The Real War on Women2018-01-10T18:10:44+00:00