“I also think if we could get cellulite put onto Barbie Dolls it would help a lot with self- acceptance.” ~ SARK, Speaker, Incest Survivor, Author of Succulent Wild Woman
At the beginning of my midlife divorce storm, it was distressing that his girlfriend was skinny and blonde and younger than me. And I was sure she didn’t have any cellulite. In fact, I saw her one time in shorts and to my dismay, she didn’t have any cellulite. Cellulite! Ugh! I have it and I wish I didn’t. But I’ve decided I’m not going to lose any sleep over it. Life’s too short!
In SARK’s book she has a whole section called “The Terror of Cellulite.” I think it’s our society’s whole Barbie Doll mentality. And we’ve passed that along to the next generations. In the press, doctors and psychologists have talked for decades about how unhealthy it is to have those pencil thin waifs modeling clothes that REAL women could never wear. But there they still are every new spring or fall Fashion Runway show. THOSE ARE NOT NORMAL WOMEN! AND ALL OF THOSE PICTURES IN THE MAGAZINES HAVE THE WRINKLES REMOVED AND THE EXTRA INCHES ON THE THIGHS AIRBRUSHED OFF!
Here’s SARK’s suggestion: “Let’s laugh at cellulite! Start a cellulite acceptance club. Find ways to make friends with it. I realize that cellulite has stuck by me all these years — it must have something to offer.” Let’s be happy with ourselves no matter how we look. Stay in shape! Be healthy! Be strong! Be vigorous! Be carefree and confident and content! Change the things you can change, but don’t obsess about things that can’t be changed. There are more worthy (and fun) adventures to be involved with!
Confidence is the sexiest thing there is! And by the way, my wasband didn’t end up with that blonde, skinny girl after having an affair with her for more than three years. I guess there was something else. For some men, there will always be “something else.” His dissatisfaction was not your fault. But if you’re dissatisfied with yourself, that is your fault! God made you the woman you are, so be happy with her …. dimples and all!
“ I’ve found the recipe for being happy whether full or hungry, hands full or hands empty. Whatever I have, wherever I am, I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am.” Romans 4: 12-13 (The Message)
How we look is never as important as who we are inside, but still I think we need to value ourselves in ways that show in our smile and our stride and our posture. Valuing our selves shows up in confidence and that’s the sexiest thing there is!