This doesn’t have anything to do with sex. It has everything to do with strategies to control our body and our physical systems when under extreme stress. In training, Navy Seals are taken underwater with their oxygen tanks over and over again, and they practice taking them apart and putting them back together. Then one day when they go underwater and their instructor unexpectedly rips their tank off and dismantles it, they know exactly what to do.
Practice calm responses to things that upset you. Write them down if you need to. Recall what has worked in the past. What are your core strengths? Review the successes you have had in your life and build on those. What calms you? Prayer? Taking a walk? Listening to music? Here’s another tip from the Marines: Take four deep cleansing breaths when you are faced with a situation that causes you immediate stress or fear. Breathe in deeply through your nose and exhale through your mouth with a longer exhale. Get as much oxygen in your body as you can. This allows you to think more clearly and calms you so that you make the best response possible.
These straightforward tools work for the Marines and the Navy Seals, and they will work for you to overcome fear in the middle of your divorce. Early on, make early recovery as simple as you can by putting into practice these common-sense suggestions. If you’re new to the divorce struggle, don’t look too far into the future. Be patient with yourself. If you consistently do the four suggestions listed above, day by day you will get stronger. Soon you can stop worrying about survival, and you can starting creating the amazing life you desire and deserve.
Below is a link to our report on Conquering the Loneliness of Divorce. Rebuilding happens in taking those small, good actions every day.