Making the choice to do simple, good things for ourselves every day helps us design and choose the life we want no matter what is happening around us. We get to choose! That’s the really cool thing!
“It’s not what you do once in a while, it’s what you do day in and day out that makes the difference.” Jenny Craig, weight-loss entrepreneur
Persistence. Getting up every day. Taking time for yourself every day. Working out every day. Drinking enough water every day. Being grateful every day. Those everyday things we do are the things that make the real difference in what our life will be. Even though sometimes we can get a jump start on a project by doing something huge … something giant like getting rid of all of those big, old, dying shrubs in front of our house and starting from scratch, or throwing out every single thing in our closet that we have not worn in five years but are holding on to for some sentimental reason. But when all is said and done, the foundation of good strong daily habits gives us the base from which we can soar, and gives us the stability to launch creative, invigorating, promising new projects. Without those small, sure every day building blocks, the real building will never take shape. Today, discipline yourself to confidently do those little things for yourself and celebrate the beautiful results.
In one of the R.A.D.I.C.A.L. support groups meeting right now in Kansas City, we talked last week about putting those building blocks in place. Doing all those “first thing in the morning” tasks with intention and gratitude and attention starts the day in a positive way. We aren’t just thrust into the day blown about by circumstances. We choose the start we want.
Take a shower
Fix your face
On Tuesday night we shared our PowerRecords where we actually marked down the good things we are doing for ourselves every single day. We can keep track of the good choices we make to encourage us to do more of those good things. Things like drink enough water, do a brain puzzle, smile at someone, pray, eat some veggies, be grateful. Little but really, really powerful things that literally change life for the better. Doing these things (not just understanding we need to do them or saying “I’ll do these things soon”) is what makes the power difference. And if it takes a simple exercise of checking those things off on our PowerRecords sheet, I’m going to keep encouraging all RADiCAL Women to do them. That includes YOU! (And ME!)
“Let us not get tired of doing what is right, for after a while we will reap a harvest of blessing if we don’t get discouraged and give up.” Galatians 6:9
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Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.