Do you need to take a break?


We all need to make time to relax, refresh and rejuvenate (especially during and after divorce). Spend time with yourself, family and/or friends just chillin’. This is me with daughter Caedran and granddaughter Daisy.

“Work should be more fun than fun.”  Noel Coward

I had a long-overdue lunch with a friend yesterday.  We had a lot of laughing and catching up to do about everything.  The food was good, and the conversation was fun and light and easy.  Sitting there I realized how much I had missed those conversations. As in most conversations with a good friend, I shared some personal insights.  One is that I confessed I think I’m a workaholic.  The theme of next month’s Radical BUZZ Newsletter, is “Re-Fresh.”  In doing research about taking time to Relax, Replenish, and Release, I came across a list: “How to Know if You’re A Workaholic.” After answering just the first six questions, I think I am one. For example: “I work outside of office hours:  seldom, often, never;  I postpone outings until the deadline is over: seldom, often, never; I take work with me on weekends:  seldom, often, never; I take work with me on vacation; seldom, often, never.”  Here’s part of the problem:  I love what I do!  Every morning I can’t wait to share what I’ve learned and what will help other women on their journey of midlife divorce recovery.  I have met amazing women.  I’m using my life experiences and my gifts for a bigger purpose.  Sometimes I don’t realize that I’m working too much. Here’s something else:  I didn’t know how to answer #16 –“I place my creative dreams before my work.”  My RADICAL activities are my “creative dreams.”  Even though I work almost non-stop, it doesn’t feel like work.  I love doing it.  I’m energized by it.  However, one thing the survey made me realize, is that I probably do need to get a bit more balance.  As many times as we give others good advice, like “Take care of yourself,”  most of us don’t practice what we preach.  I am being honest with you.  As long as I’m able, I will do this “work.”  But to do it better, I’m going to make sure I “ReFresh” myself regularly, even when I don’t think I need to.  First of all, I’m going to pay attention when my friend graciously offered to come help me get some of my “jobs” under control.  And also,  from July 27th – August 5th, I’m going to drink in the cool air in Wyoming, fish, enjoy nature and my family and remind myself that when I get back, I can do a better job.  Plus, I know that in the Discussion room and because of Guest bloggers, you all will be just fine.  That’s the cool thing about our temporary “Divorce Recovery Sisterhood,” — we all have wisdom, encouragement and fun to share with each other. We’re all in this together and that makes us stronger than any of us can be alone .. even when we ask for help or when some of us are taking time off to regroup!

“My presence will go with you and I will give you rest.”  Exodus 33:14 (NIV)

Keep sending those “The Sisterhood Speaks” guest blog entries.  There was something wrong with the e-mail I told you to send it to yesterday.  You can just reply to this or you can send it to  Try that!

I’m still here this whole next week, so let me know how I can help!

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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