Healing After Divorce By Focusing On Others


“I’m a glutton for life.” ~ Gladys Knight

Me, too. I want life in all its blazing glory. Sometimes during my divorce, I wondered if I would have any life worth living at all. I was more concerned about how my life was going than anything else.

Focusing On Others

But I soon found out that when I started focusing on the lives of others and doing what I could to make their lives better, my own life started improving. I wanted to do what was best for my children and grandchildren, for my clients, for my friends, for my extended family; but when it really got down to it, I wasn’t happy because I was concentrating too much on me.

I’ll admit, during a midlife divorce, oftentimes you have to concentrate on yourself. You have to make decisions based on what’s best for you. Especially at the very beginning, you have to take care of your own physical, emotional and spiritual needs, but even that would be easier if somehow we could all learn the skill of also thinking about those around us.

Let Go Of The Destructive & Embrace The Good

Remove yourself from hurtful, harmful, abusive people … let them go. Let them do what they are going to do. We can’t control them anyway. But we can control our own self and we can each decide to grab life and live it for all its worth. We can decide to embrace all the good people and good things around us. Cry! Sob! Scream! Laugh! Dance! Live fully and freely and joyfully. Let’s each be a glutton for life today — it’s an incredible, delicious feast!

“I came that they may have and enjoy life, and have it in abundance –to the full, till it overflows.” ~ John 10:10 (The Amplified New Testatment)


About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.