Espresso, Meditation and Divorce


“I’ve taken up meditation. I like to have an espresso first to make it more challenging.”  Betsy Salkind

As serious as stopping obsessive thinking is during divorce, I laughed out loud when I read the quote above. It’s even funnier if you have really tried meditating. It’s often hard to calm yourself and quiet your thoughts enough to really do it.

Getting our thoughts under control is one of the most important things we can do during divorce and one of the hardest especially when we are bombarded every single day with all of the crap that goes along with ending a marriage.  Plus … all of us on that journey struggle with the overwhelm and mind-racing, and we also are most likely still obsessing about our wasband (ex-husband) – and probably his girlfiend, too.   Or we’re playing those useless replays of the past and the “what-if” or “why” tapes over and over again in our head.

Most of us in our mach-speed, multi-tasking, espresso-drinking-going-through-divorce world, don’t have much experience with meditating, but we need it more than ever.  In fact, this past weekend the cover of Parade magazine in all of our Sunday  papers had on the cover: ” The #1 Health-Bo0ster in 2015.” It didn’t specify on the cover, but the article inside started out like this:  “Forget complicated New Year’s resolutions (You probably already have).  Simply taking the time to meditate can make all the difference in your health and well-being this year.”

Here’s the cool thing: one of the experts speaking at the “Your Heart’s Desires” Divorce Recovery Conference on Valentine’s weekend is Diane Breneman who left her successful legal career advocating for burn victims, and  is now spreading the word about the life-transforming benefits of a meditation process called Conscious Transformation.  She is a meditation teacher and director of the Institute of Transformational Studies’ Global Charities.  She is going to help conference attendees get started on a process of neural transformation to increase positive emotions and reduce anxiety and stress.  I can’t wait to hear her presentation!  That alone is worth the conference fee.  Plus we have three other equally impressive speakers who specialize in different, but connected, areas of life enhancement.

You need to be at this conference!  Or you can stay home and keep obsessing about how much fun everyone else is having and how your life sucks.  You can change that by joining a whole tribe of RADiCAL women who refuse to have a mediocre, ho-hum sort of life and get started making your life everything you want it to be.  You need this conference!  We all do!

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“May the words of my mouth and the meditations of my heart be pleasing in your sight, O LORD, my Rock and my Redeemer.”  Psalm 19:14 (NIV)

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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