Goodness Rules – Even After Divorce


This seemed a good message for this Easter Weekend.  This blog is also one of those messages that come your way if you have the Divorce Survival Kit or if you have the MasterPlan.  I think it’s a good one to repeat again.

Goodness Rules

“It is easy to believe in goodness when good things are happening.  When there is pain, horror, neglect or evil, it is profoundly more difficult. This belief of mine comes from a place of deep and absolute knowledge:  life is goodness.  Goodness rules.”       SARK; author, artist, incest survivor

It’s true.  It’s easy to believe in goodness (or in whatever name you have for God), when your life is humming along and days are bright.  But it’s not so easy when everything you hold dear is about to disappear.  When your husband decides he loves someone else; when your children have to divide their time and their loyalties; when your grandchildren wonder what is going on; when holidays and birthdays and vacations are all screwed up; when you can’t sleep and you can’t eat and music makes you cry.

Believing in goodness in times of suffering is not easy, but it’s worth it.  Don’t give up on goodness.  Because when the suffering is over, when the sobbing stops, then the sun comes out again.  Morning comes fresh and beautiful again.  Life presents opportunities for us to do something good ourselves, and when we respond positively, truth gets new legs.  Sometimes it takes surviving the struggle to fully appreciate the real goodness everywhere.

“For though once your heart was full of darkness, now it is full of light from the Lord, and your behavior should show it!  Because of this light within you, you should do only what is good and right and true.”   Ephesians 5:8-9 (The Living Bible)

One of the lessons of Easter is to hang on through the doubt and the darkness and the pain of that time between Good Friday and Easter Sunday.  Whether you are on the Christian path or not, remember that “morning always comes and spring always follows winter.”  Always.  That can be true for you, too.  Especially now.

I hope you had a weekend of new hope that will carry you through this journey.


About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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  1. linda April 20, 2016 at 11:00 pm - Reply

    Suzy, I too am a mom of 4. 3 boys and 1 girl, whom we tragically lost in a skiing accident 7 years ago. Our marriage of 24 years was strained… wasband found solace with a 15 years younger wench. I am going through the roller coaster of divorce and determined to land on my feet. Wish you were closer so I could try your chicken soup!! God has this, he knows what is best for our journey. Best to you.

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