“Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. Let me learn from you, love you, bless you before you depart. Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.” ~ Mary Jean Iron
You might say there is no such thing as a normal day when you’re going through a midlife divorce. These days, you are looking for a better day tomorrow, because the day you’re in is often full of hard confrontations and challenges.
The truth is, every day we’re alive usually contains some amount of struggle. And there’s no doubt about it, these divorce days can be very, very hard days. But don’t completely use up your hours of daylight with negatives. In doing that, you miss the very real joys available this very instant … joys that we too often take for granted.
Finding Joy Amidst The Struggle
During this challenging day, think about what good things you DO have. Your senses…. hearing, seeing, feeling, tasting. Your body … your legs, arms, fingers, feet. Your relationships … children, grandchildren, friends, co-workers, brothers, sisters. Your unnumbered (and often unnoticed), miraculous blessings… clean water, food to eat, a place to live, peaches … chocolate.
Try to focus on those amazing wonderful things instead of the difficulties of the day. Deal with the difficulties the best you can. See to the hard decisions you must make today, but also find the little (but incredible) joys tucked away everywhere. Realize that the only perfect days are the days that we learn to accept the challenges, celebrate the opportunities, and really see the miracle of these normal, beautiful, wild, unpredictable, ordinary hours.
“This day is holy to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.” ~ Nehemiah 8:10b (NLT)
