Holding A Grudge Only Hurts YOU


“Don’t carry a grudge. While you’re carrying the grudge … the other guy’s out dancing.” ~ Anonymous

Getting Angry

You are in your bed crying because your wasband is out of town with his little honey with him; or you are enraged that you are having to deal with all of this agony and frustration while he has someone telling him how wonderful he is, and seems to be having a fun, love-filled life.

After the sadness and heartbreak wore off, I began to get really mad. I couldn’t even listen to my favorite songs on the radio because of him! I was miserable.

Giving Away Your Power

After a short while of being angry all of the time, it finally hit me. It didn’t make one iota of difference to him and his girlfriend. I was letting someone else’s bad behavior destroy my life. And he didn’t deserve that power.

We can’t let our wasbands rule our lives. Nor our anger. If we hold onto that, not only does our grief multiply, but we are in danger of becoming a bitter, ugly, angry and vengeful person. Only you should determine your future and the person you want to be.

Create Your Own, Good Life

Every time his “dancing” pops up in your head, try to immediately take your thoughts somewhere else. Do something positive. Help someone else. Create your own, good life. You can make the choice to do that. Remember, we will each reap what we sow.

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.” “Be imitators of God, therefore, as dearly loved children and live a life of love…” ~ Ephesians 4:31; 5:1a (NIV)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.