Those who are just a little farther along on the journey can usually help someone just starting out better than anyone. The pain is still fresh enough for you to to empathize, but you’ve learned what helps and what doesn’t. Even though you feel weak, share what you know anyway.
“In helping others, we shall help ourselves, for whatever good we give out completes the circle and comes back to us.” Flora Edwards
It is incorrect to say something is REALLY true. It’s either true or it’s not. Well, that fact stated above is true. By helping others, we gain more than they do. By helping others, we get the big benefit. And the cool thing is, we can always choose to help others. That’s something we have complete control over. And that Karma thing, the Golden Rule, the Sowing And Reaping Truth is that helping others is for our benefit as much as theirs.
That sounds like manipulation. That sounds like my heart is in the wrong place. Let’s face it, we don’t always feel like helping or giving or being kind, but when we make the choice to do those good things, even if we feel a bit of a sham when we do it, we are honored for our choice. Often our heart follows. I heard a lecture recently about the fact that people learn best from those just a little farther up the road. Three year olds learn from five year olds. Teenagers often listen best to young adults. Young parents are enlightened by those with just a little more experience. So remember, those women who are just starting out on this midlife divorce journey can learn best from those of you just a little farther up the road. Your experiences and insights are still fresh in your mind. You can identify with what she is going through better than someone too far ahead. That’s one reason we started the MDRcommunity. Others can benefit from what we each have learned … what we share. In helping, our healing gets on the fast track, too. So if you haven’t already, join the MDRcommunity on the midlifedivorcerecovery.com site. If you’re already a member, jump in the conversation and start helping. There are women everywhere who need your encouragement. And helping is exactly what you need, too.
“You’re far happier giving than getting.” Acts 20:35 (The Message)
Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.