How we dress makes a difference in how we feel about ourselves and what others think about us. If we dress like we don’t care, that’s the message we send to ourselves and others.
“Style is knowing what not to wear — On the list of raiment to leave on the racks are clothes that are a little too tight, jackets with pockets in all the wrong places, garments that ride up instead of down, and trousers you think fit you because you can zip them up.” Veronique Vienne – The Art of Imperfection
How we dress is a clue to how we feel about ourselves. As I write this column this morning at least I am not in my robe. I have on jeans and a soft tee shirt and, surprisingly, shoes on my feet. I am what you call a casual-have-better-things-to-think-about-dresser. I’m into comfort dressing. (Which usually comes from comfort eating!) The older I get, the better pants with elastic waists look. And thank goodness for drawstrings. In reality, if I’m feeling confident and if I’m in good shape and taking care of my body, I like dressing up. I like having something on that makes me look good. I stand a little taller. I am more outgoing and friendly. On the other hand, if I’m worried that I might run into someone I know when I go out, I probably could do better with my personal appearance. How we are on the inside is the most important thing, of course. But in small and large ways, who we are on the inside is often reflected in how we choose to dress. Let’s think about that today, and start our wardrobe choices by putting our shoulders back, holding our head up, putting on a smile and thinking something kind.
“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31: 25-26 (The Oxford Bible)
Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.