“…You are what is commonly referred to as in a hole. If you could find an actual hole deep enough and dark enough you would happily crawl off into it and sever all ties with life as you know it. But don’t you do it. Snivel a little and then have a fair-sized medicinal snack, and then get over it.” ~ Jill Conner Browne, The Sweet Potato Queens’ Book of Love


If you are going through the midlife divorce process, chances are you have been in a hole at least once, if not a few times. There’s no avoiding the fact that sometimes we will have a “terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day,” or month or year.

Tammy (A Sweet Potato Queen) describes one woman’s experience like this: “…She crawled through life for months and months and spent all kinds of money on therapists trying to figure out what happened (he dumped her) and why (he was a squirrel), and what she could do about it (not a damn thing).”

Moving Toward Joy

Did your wasband decide he wanted someone else or a “better” life? Did you do everything possible to save your marriage and he left anyway? You are only left with two choices at this point: to get over it, or not.

I am living proof that you can get over it. Not only that, but you have a life full of more gladness than you can imagine waiting for you. So, crawl out of that hole, open up your heart again and seek the joy God has been preparing for you all along.

“Weeping may go on all night, but in the morning there is joy.” ~ Psalm 30:4b (KJV)