“A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs — jolted by every pebble in the road.” ~ Henry Ward Beecher
My motto is: Love better. Live bigger. Laugh more!
Sometimes life is not funny. Sometimes, something happens that is more like an avalanche than a pebble in the road… like a midlife divorce.
So what does it look like to laugh or have a sense of humor when life is devastating?
Defining ‘Sense Of Humor’
I got to wondering what exactly having a “sense of humor” means. We say, “she has a good sense of humor,” but what does that actually mean?
The dictionary defines sense as “A conscious perception or sensation derived through the senses or through the intellect; i.e. a sense of direction; a sense of honor.” And humor is defined as “something that arouses laughter or amusement; a frame of mind.”
So even though it might be hard to find things to laugh about amidst the pain of a midlife divorce, you can still have that conscious
Joy WILL Return
Of course, your situation is in many ways agonizing, sad, and lonely (to name a few of the real, hard emotions.) But underlying it all, it is important to believe that laughter and joy will return.
I remember thinking during my divorce journey, “I just want to be able to laugh again … at anything.” You will laugh again. Joy will find you again. You can find glimpses of it even today. Cultivate a joy-filled and light-hearted frame of mind, and a “sense of humor” that will make your day more enjoyable!
“Gladness and joy will overtake them, and sorrow and sighing will flee away.” ~ Isaiah 35:10B (NIV)