During divorce laughter is hard to find. One of the best things about being with another woman going through divorce is that she gets the tears, but you can almost always find something from the situation that cracks you both up! That’s good for everybody.
“The first time her laughter unfurled its wings in the wind, we knew that the world would never be the same.” Laughter Unfurled by Brian Andreas
I know you have probably been mostly crying lately. In the middle of a divorce, laughter is usually in short supply. But even though your sense of humor may be on sabbatical for a brief time, be alert for even the smallest things that make you smile. Research shows that laughter lowers stress hormones and boosts the immune system. Optimists live longer than pessimists. People who smile, even when they don’t feel especially happy, can make part of the ‘happy zone’ in the brain surge with electrical activity. Voluntarily producing smiles moves brain activity in the direction of spontaneous happiness. Even holding a pencil in your mouth to mimic a smile causes positive changes in the brain. So even (and especially) when you don’t feel like it, make a conscious effort to find things to be happy about. Cry when you must, but as time moves forward, you’ll discover that finding the joy around you will begin to get easier and the smile you put on your face will seem more natural. Also, seeing you smile or hearing you laugh again will bring pure pleasure to all of those who love you.
“A cheerful disposition is good for your health; gloom and doom leave you bone tired.” Proverbs 17:22 (The Message) ______________________________________
This last Saturday, I met with some R.A.D.I.C.A.L. women in another city. They are all fairly new to the journey. We talked about a lot of the issues of divorce and there were some tears. But there was also delicious laughter. They weren’t trying to be funny, but their good nature and good humor and good hearts couldn’t be held back. They were an encouragement to each other …. and to me!
Thank you St. Louis Sassies! (and especially to BuffyShawnee for setting this up) I have no doubt at all that your lives will be everything you want them to be … and more! I still want those guest blogs ….. :))
Let’s get some groups going in your part of the country. You have much to share.
Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.