The Stages Of Grieving Divorce

“Positive attitude and negative attitude are both magnets. Positive attitudes always invite positive results. Negative attitudes always invite negative results.” ~ Judy Zerafa

Negativity During The Divorce

It is hard not to be negative when you are going through a midlife divorce. I had negative feelings about myself, my wasband and my future. I felt defeated. I was too sad, tired and angry to feel good about much of anything.

But somewhere along the way I discovered that it takes just as much energy to be negative as it does to be positive! And being happy felt like a much better alternative.

Grief Is Healing

No one can escape the midlife divorce process without going through a serious period of grieving. And the truth is, grieving is not a negative emotion!

Experiencing divorce grief stages, and even anger, is an essential part of the healing process. And healing is definitely a positive outcome!

Finding Goodness

So today, try to take notice of  the small, beautiful moments throughout your day. Be thankful for the blessings we often take for granted. Your health. Your friends. A nice hot shower.

Every single minute of life we are given has the potential for goodness in it. Find that goodness. And suddenly you’ll discover good things being drawn to you… like a magnet.

“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another forgiving each other just as God in Christ forgave you.” ~ Ephesians 4:31-32 (NIV)

Learn about the stages of divorce recovery.