Living After Divorce: Style Up


“Style is knowing what not to wear — On the list of raiment to leave on the racks are clothes that are a little too tight, jackets with pockets in all the wrong places, garments that ride up instead of down, and trousers you think fit you because you can zip them up.” ~ Veronique Vienne, The Art of Imperfection

Comfort Dressing

How we dress is often a pretty accurate indication of how we feel about ourselves. It’s a miracle that I’m not still in my robe as I write this. I have on jeans, a soft t-shirt and, surprisingly, shoes on my feet.

Most days I’m what you call a casual-have-better-things-to-think-about-dresser. I’m into comfort dressing. Which usually comes from comfort eating! The older I get, the better pants with elastic waists look. And thank goodness for drawstrings.

Our Outside as a Reflection of Our Inside

In reality, if I’m feeling confident and I’m in good shape and taking care of my body, I like to dress up. I like having something on that makes me look good. I stand a little taller. I am more outgoing and friendly.

How we are on the inside is the most important thing, of course. But in small and large ways, who we are on the inside is often reflected in how we choose to dress. Today, walk out your door in confidence: put your shoulders back, hold your head up, and put on a smile. Then follow through with actually wearing something that reflects how you view the world: with optimism and excitement!

“Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness in on her tongue.” ~ Proverbs 31: 25-26 (The Oxford Bible)

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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