Pray and make the choice to do good in every circumstance.
On some days, all we can do is pray. That’s how I felt on Friday. My heart was heavy even in the middle of a wonderful grandchild’s birthday party on Saturday when the prayer of our family holding hands in a circle before dinner included a prayer of comfort for all those suffering unspeakable sadness because of the tragedy in Connecticut. Sunday worship included prayers of comfort and an admonition to face the evil and discouragement in our own hearts and to recommit ourselves to living with more holiness and light in every way we can. Today is Monday. We all know we have to get done what must be done … the business of daily living. I’m more determined than ever to do every single thing I can do today to ease the pain of women going through divorce. One thing I’ve learned through the last 12 years is that even though the agony at times seems overwhelming, (in events like Sandy Hook Elementary School and in divorce) we each still must light our individual candles no matter what and not give up. We must still pass out that cup of water to a thirsty traveler. We must still comfort the brokenhearted wherever we find them. We must see beyond the pain and embrace and celebrate every good and right thing. We must use our gifts and resources unselfishly. We must decide that in our own lives, the choice will always be for good. In spite of evil getting the upper hand temporarily, we should be even more committed to simply doing our small part in even the most simple ways every day in every circumstance. I refuse to let any evil act make me lose heart. In fact, these tragedies should make us each more committed than ever to stand against evil. Even if others around us choose another path. Even though our courage may temporarily waver, we should decide now to boldly stand up for goodness every time we have the chance. Our children desperately need to see that in us. Our families need to see it. Our friends need to see it. Our culture needs to see it. The world needs to see it. At this time especially, we must each recommit to shining our small light in every way we can this very day and every single day we are allowed to live on this earth. Do not lose heart. Choose goodness.
“Finally, friends, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things. Whatever you have learned or heard from me, or seen in me — put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you. ” Philippians 4:8-9
Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.