A Hard Blow
A midlife divorce is a slam on your body, your soul and on almost every single aspect of your everyday life. It is a full force punch to the gut that can take months, and sometimes years to recover from if you don’t get help. The truth is a divorce is one of the biggest most disruptive challenges that life can throw at you.
Everything changes when you go through a divorce. Your living situation, your name, your relationships with family and friends, traditions, lifestyle, surroundings, employment and on and on and on.
Is there anything good that comes from a blow to your whole being? The unequivocal answer is YES! You will definitely go through a period of too much sobbing and screaming… and I wont’ lie, that’s an exhausting trip. But as you begin to emerge from that part of the process, never will there be such a clear-cut opportunity to go after the life you want.
Fight For Your New Life
Divorce is one of the few experiences that can catapult you toward big, and new life choices that can change the trajectory of your life for the better.
What am I going to do now? What am I going to teach my children through this fight? Where am I going to live? Who are my friends going to be? Am I going to change my name? Am I going to go back to school? What do I really want my life to look like moving forward? We get to decide.
You may not have been wanting a new and different life, but now you, here you stand. Don’t miss the opportunity to build a better life for yourself. You may have moments of saying to yourself, “I don’t want a new life… I just want my old life back!”
But the hard truth of the matter is, you’re not going to get it. Think about this instead: you now have a chance to walk away from the destructive part of your old life and create for yourself a bright, fulfilling, and marvelous new life.
# 1: Stay in the ring waiting for another hit, or cower on the mat crying, being sad, resentful, bitter and all-around miserable for the rest of your life.
Or, #2: Get up, dust yourself off, wipe your bloody nose on your sleeve, and start minute by minute, hour by hour, and day by day creating a new life beyond your wildest dreams. The life that will reflect the most confident and best of who you are.
“Remember that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize. You also must run in such a way that you will win. All athletes practice strict self-control. They do it to win a prize that will fade away, but we do it for an eternal prize. So I run straight to the goal with purpose in every step. I am not like a boxer who misses his punches. I discipline my body like an athlete, training it to do what it should. Otherwise, I fear that after preaching to others I myself might be disqualified.” ~ 1 Corinthians 9:24- 27 (NIV)