Refuse Poverty After Divorce

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All riches begin in our head. We have to believe we are rich and can get richer, and we have to start taking actions to get where we want to be.

“If you want riches, you must refuse to accept any circumstance that leads toward poverty. (The word ‘riches’ is here used in its broadest sense, meaning financial, spiritual, mental and material)”  Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich.

By 1980 Think and Grow Rich had sold 60,000,000 copies and was known to be responsible for the material success of more people than any other publication in history.  And now, there’s a new edition for the 21st century and you can read it on Kindle.  The book has staying power because the principles work. As someone whose passion is helping women after midlife divorce, I can’t ignore the money part of the picture.  It’s vitally important for all of us.  So, I’ve been re-reading Think and Grow Rich.  Napoleon (I wonder if he had a nickname?) knows that riches of all kind (including financial) begin with our frame of mind. Do women going through divorce suddenly develop a “poverty” state of mind?  In research done by Mr. Hill, fear of poverty was the most common of the six major fears of life.  And according to this riches guru, we cannot get on the road to riches as long as we are harboring indecision, doubt and fear.  Who of us dealing with a midlife divorce hasn’t lived in that miserable apartment of indecision, doubt and fear?  Maybe some of us are still there.  But we can change.  Success starts in our head and then shows itself in every part of life.  But it takes a no-turning-back approach to riches… every kind of riches.  What would happen if we all reached the financial goals we want as well as the spiritual, mental and material goals?   According to Napoleon Hill, all riches start with desire.  His proven assertion is that riches begin with thoughts of success, “and then those thoughts start clothing themselves into their  actual material equivalent.”  We have to know what we want.  We have to think we can achieve what we want.  If we do that and take actions in that direction, riches of all kind start showing up.  Let’s all try this:  Give up any fear, indecision and doubt about our finances just for the rest of this year and let’s see what happens.  For all of you MDRcommunity members, send in any results of our new “Rich Thinking.”  If Think and Grow Rich can work for millions of people, it can work for us!

“With me (Wisdom) are riches and honor; enduring wealth and prosperity. My fruit is better than fine gold; what I yield surpasses choice silver.  I walk in the way of righteousness, along the paths of justice, bestowing wealth on those who love me and making their treasuries full”  Proverbs 8: 18-21

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

3 Comments

  1. Shannon Rios December 4, 2012 at 8:45 pm - Reply

    Great post on dealing with the after-effects of Divorce. I especially liked your comment, “Give up any fear, indecision and doubt about our finances just for the rest of this year and let’s see what happens.”
    I wanted to let you know I am currently offering a FREE Kindle download of my highly acclaimed book, The 7 Fatal Mistakes Divorced and Separated Parents Make: Strategies for Raising Healthy Children of Divorce and Conflict. It is free from December 4th through 7th on Amazon at http://amzn.to/TIRGz4. My only goal is to help children through helping parents. I hope this book helps you as well.

    • Suzy December 4, 2012 at 9:00 pm - Reply

      I will check out this resource. Thank you for sharing.
      Suzy

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