Relearning Trust After Divorce

“ Learning to trust no matter what life turns out to be is a great discovery.” ~ Sue Bender, Plain and Simple Wisdom

Trust is a simple, yet complicated, topic. For most of 33 years, I trusted my ‘wasband.’ I trusted him even after his affairs when he said he wanted our marriage to work. I trusted him even after finding him “with” his girlfriend when he said he wanted to have his family back.

I don’t know when it was exactly that I decided that I couldn’t trust what my wasband said. There were many times he didn’t honor our promises to each other. There were also times I was not all I could have been to him. But I think the kind of trust Sue Bender is talking about is trust in a power that is absolutely, unequivocally trustworthy.

God Is Always Trustworthy

There has never been one time in my whole life that God has not been there for me. There were many dark days where I wondered if He had forgotten me, or if He didn’t care about my pain. But when I reflect back on all of the difficult times I have faced, I see that there was never, ever an instance where God was not with me, offering His strength, power and reassurance.

I’ve come to learn that even the act of letting me struggle through difficulties without stepping in and easing every pain had purpose. If God made our lives a party every minute, we would have no need to gain strength and no need to trust. And in reality, it’s when things do get so bad that all we can do is trust, that the greatest rewards come.

We learn, through testing and trusting, that life can ultimately be good regardless of any external circumstances. My journey through my midlife divorce would have been so much easier if I had, had more faith and accepted what was going on, instead of fighting it so hard.

Trust Is Freedom

Even now, if I can consciously do what I know is right without worrying so much about how details turn out, I will discover a peace that passes all understanding. That kind of trust is full of unbelievable freedom and power. Just for today, lets all try trusting God completely with every minute and see what happens.

“He will keep in perfect peace all those who trust in Him, whose thoughts turn often to the Lord! Trust in the Lord always, for in the Lord is your everlasting strength.” (For the Lord, the Lord is the Rock eternal).” ~ Isaiah 26:3-4 (The Living Bible/NIV)