Self Esteem in the Pits After Divorce?

2018-01-10T18:11:03+00:00

“Disciplining yourself to do what you know is right, and important, although difficult, is the highest road to pride, self-esteem and personal satisfaction.” ~ Margaret Thatcher

If someone asked you how you’re feeling right now, what would you say? During a midlife divorce, here are some of the words that probably come to mind: confused, discouraged, disappointed, worried, afraid, angry, enraged, bitter, depressed, embarrassed, inadequate, devastated, ugly, fat, dumb, sad, and overwhelmed (to name a few). Whether these feelings are warranted or not, a woman going through a midlife divorce usually feels some variation of all of these.

Let’s decide today change our thinking!  Replace all of the negative descriptors with some of the following positive descriptions of how we should feel:  bright, awesome, calm, forgiven, happy, carefree, intelligent, motivated, energized, refreshed, optimistic, fun, focused, powerful, fit, strong, exuberant, loving, kind, patient, compassionate, caring, cherished, good, enthusiastic, Spirit-filled, productive, extraordinary, unique, delicious, capable, smart, able, light-hearted, funny, personable, adventurous, bold, expressive, delightful, sensitive, succulent, content, original, confident, helpful, curious, tender, worthy, acceptable, admired, encouraging, self-assured, sexy, sensual, positive, valuable, creative, radiant, charming, inspiring, alive, rare, fascinating, brave, courageous, blessed, R.A.D.I.C.A.L.!

Remove all of those negative feelings and replace them with the positive descriptions of who you are! Whenever any depressing description of your current life comes into your head, replace it with something from the REAL YOU list. Lift your head up, put your shoulders back and smile, so everyone you encounter today will see who you really are!

“Summing it all up friends, I’d say you’ll do best by filling your minds and meditating on things true, noble, reputable, authentic, compelling, gracious — the best, not the worst, the beautiful, not the ugly, things to praise, not things to curse. “ ~ Philippians 4:8 (The Message)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.

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