Shattered by Divorce – How to Rebuild

Shattered by Divorce – How to Rebuild

2018-01-10T18:10:49+00:00

How to be used for a mighty purpose after divorce:

“This is the true joy in life … being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one … being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”  George Bernard Shaw

I don’t think I was often a “feverish little clod of ailments and grievances” when I was married and trying to be a good wife and a good mother.  I have been that more than a few times after my midlife divorce.

Of course, we all have our moments of bad behavior, but my main purposes in life were worthy purposes.  I made sacrifices.  I tried to do what was best for  my husband and my family.  In fact, I still believe it was a mighty purpose.  I can say in good conscience, along with all of my failures and mistakes, that I tried to be what I needed to be for my family.  When I found myself faced with a husband who wanted someone and something different and a family that was shattered, I was shattered, too.  You probably feel or felt like that as well.

It took me a long time to figure out that God still has a purpose for me and that I am not a failure.  I know, in looking back, God honors our efforts to do right as imperfect as they are.  Just because our wasband wanted something different does not mean our purpose was in vain.  In fact, so many good things came from that daily striving.

The cool thing is, God has a powerful purpose for us after our divorce.  That purpose may have changed, but there are still family, work, community and personal life goals that we are called to pursue.  There are children, grandchildren, extended family, friends, neighbors, co-workers and countless other relationships to nourish and enjoy.
God presents opportunities for us to do good every single day.  In small ways and large, we can be a positive force of Nature just like we have always been.  When we do that, we will see a flourishing and a blossoming of new life beyond our wildest dreams!

Rediscover that true joy  … rediscover your mighty purpose.  Happiness (and fun!) will find you on its own.  Let God reshape your life and allow those new spring leaves to unfold!  Your tree can be more beautiful than ever!

“A life devoted to things is a dead life, a stump; a God-shaped life is a flourishing tree.  Proverbs 11:28 (The Message)

About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.