“One of the things that helped me most in moving forward was meeting other women who were going through what I was. I had felt so ashamed and like such a loser, but I looked around the room and thought, these women aren’t losers! It was part of getting out of the shame. I had just felt so ashamed and seeing these other women made me think, ‘I am right here with them. They’re not losers. Maybe I’m not either.'” ~ A R.A.D.I.C.A.L. Woman
The quote above is taken from CD #12 of the R.A.D.I.C.A.L. MasterPlan – an interview with 5 women who are going through midlife divorce and who are discussing the following questions:
1. What helped you the most in moving forward during your divorce?
2. What’s the most important lesson you have learned from this experience?
3. What was the biggest mistake you made? (This is a good one! You’ll laugh!)
4. What one piece of advice can you give the women listening?
The CD is full of powerful words from women in the trenches of the divorce recovery journey. It’s one of my favorite interviews of the series, because the information shared is so practical. There is nothing more encouraging than hearing from women that have been where you are and can help you move through the healing process by sharing their own stories.
I recently read an article detailing how people who are facing a similar difficulty in life form a bond far deeper and more enduring than bonds of any other kinds. That is why our R.A.D.I.C.A.L. sisterhood was created. We need each other because, WE GET IT!
“He (God) comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us.” ~ 2 Corinthians 1:4 (The Message)
My divorce was final at the end of last year, after seevral years of trying to keep it together. I filed and asked him to leave and was met with little resistannce, so our process was mild compared to many, though traumatic for me. I read to learn where I may have been smarter. I wish I had known about this site three years ago when first faced with the crumbling marriage. However, in the midst of the struggle, I did not have sense or mental energy to look. Thankfully, I seem to have found a trustworthy lawyer, but I’m not happy with the child visitation schedule at all. I feel powerless to change it and unsure of what is actually best for children.