How To Get Through A Divorce Financially

Disclaimer: The content that follows should not be considered financial advice and is merely a directional guide to help women.   How to Start Over Financially After Divorce Unless we can get on stable financial footing after divorce, it is very hard to recover in other ways. Financial insecurity after divorce is a real and [...]

Surviving Divorce After 50

If our marriage has survived into our fifties, we think it should be smooth sailing after that.  That’s turning out not to be the case. Sadly, the results are that more divorces are happening after 50 (sometimes called Gray Divorces), affecting our children, our finances, our self esteem and sometimes our very survival. At around [...]

Cultural Myths & Divorce

“Let’s do something cheap and superficial; Let’s do something that we might regret; Let’s do something shallow and insensitive, ‘Cause this might be the only chance we get.” Sung by Burt Reynolds in the movie, Cannonball Run Empty Promises Have you ever read the book How To Be Your Own Selfish Pig – And Other Ways [...]

Growing Into Ourselves After Divorce

“Growing as wild women involves breaking out of cages, boxes, stereotypes, categories, and captivity. It involves standing tall, laughing loudly, and being who we really are.” ~ SARK, Succulent Wild Woman The Discomfort Of Growth Growing is uncomfortable and often feels perilous. And the deep-level of rejection we experience in a midlife divorce can make the [...]

No Apology Necessary

“Positive thinking seems to be mandatory in the breast cancer world, to the point that unhappiness requires a kind of apology.”  ~ Barbara Ehrenreich, Bright-Sided: How the Relentless Promotion of Positive Thinking Has Undermined America The Sadness As a Christian woman, do you ever feel the need to apologize for your midlife divorce sadness? When [...]

The Power Of Dignity During Divorce

“Dignity, in fact, is invariably the mask to assume under difficult circumstances: It is as if nothing can affect you, and you have all the time in the world to respond. This is an extremely powerful pose.” ~ The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Green and Joose Elfers A Good Woman During my midlife divorce, there [...]

Sex After Midlife Divorce

“Two-thirds of people with HERPES show no symptoms.” ~ Cameron Tuttle, The Paranoid’s Pocket Guide  I feel like a dorm mother at the college of Advanced Midlife Divorce Recovery Studies. I worry about you. I want to tell you, like I used to tell my daughter before a date, "remember who you are, Who’s you are [...]