Appearing Needy During Divorce


“Appearing needy – at any age – is known to be a turnoff.” Andrea Aelion Brooks, author and journalist, Wall Street Journal I know that at the beginning of any grieving period, especially the grief of midlife divorce and in the process of recovery, we are needy. That’s a fact. We need support. We need

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Start a RADiCAL women’s divorce support group of your own


During divorce, you need ongoing support from women who understand what you're going through.  And during the holidays during divorce, you need extra support. "At all costs, you mustn't withdraw because a marriage has failed. During that time of stress you need friends and family as never before, and if you let them nurse you

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Your Divorce Support Team


I have never been very good at asking for help.  But during my long divorce struggle, after stumbling and bumbling around on my own for too long, I thought to myself, "This isn't working."  Don't get me wrong.  I knew I needed help and I prayed continually for God's help, and I talked to my parents and

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Smash Something


“Be outrageous — and slam that door! As you do so remind yourself that your recklessness is nothng but the expression of a cosmic urge to challenge the general tendency of things to ebb toward a lukewarm and boring equilibrium.” The Art of Imperfection I’ve used this blog several times since I wrote it a

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The Real World


“Hi Ladies,  I feel like I am constantly coming to you all with prayer requests, but I guess that is what friends are for :)”  RADiCAL Woman to her support group members The blog below is a response to the RADiCAL woman above who described a scary, stressful situation and who asked for prayers from

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In a funk? Do this.


Helping someone else always helps us. And reaching out to others takes our focus off our own difficult situation. That’s often the best medicine of all. “The best thing I can do for my brain is to find a person in greater pain than myself and to offer her my

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Make some new friends


During divorce, you may have to find some new friends. Friends who understand. They won't care how much you talk about your divorce. You won't need that forever, but you do early on.   "See where you could use some more friends, and then find some!"    SARK, author, writer, creative guru Some

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Ex-husbands and their younger girlfriends


I am usually serious on these blogs because I know how heartbreaking a midlife divorce is.  For awhile, it's an awful, debilitating grief.  But even with the challenging sadness, there are moments of hilarity and laughter when a group of women get together for social time after a R.A.D.I.C.A.L. support group meeting where we focus

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After divorce ask yourself: What do I want?


After the pain of divorce, you can choose what comes next. We all struggle with the pain and challenges of divorce but there is a new world out there for us to enjoy and savor.  I’m three years out in my divorce journey and life is great again.  The first few years are

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