The battles of divorce


“We grow forward when the delights of growth and the anxieties of safety are greater than the anxieties of growth and the delights of safety.” ~ Abraham Maslow Growth and safety are usually at odds with each other. During the earliest stages of a midlife divorce we crave safety above all else. We worry we can’t

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Pain and Strength


  Pain = Weakness leaving the body.   “Pain is weakness leaving the body.” 
Anonymous If the statement above is true, we are all bionic women! I have seen the saying above on a shirt at a Cross Country meet. I have seen it in a book about Marine Corp

Pain and Strength2018-01-10T18:10:52+00:00

Unspeakable suffering


This time of suffering will bring new levels of understanding and spiritual growth if we let it. Just know, without a doubt, that your life will be wonderful again. It’s a promise. “Deep, unspeakable suffering may well be called a baptism, a regeneration, the initiation into a new state.”  George

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You Can End the Pain


Being responsible for ourselves means making difficult choices. Try everything you can to make your marriage work. Then, if necessary, take responsibility for choosing to let go of something that cannot be. "We all tend to want somebody else to change so we don't have to put all that effort into being responsible

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