Happy Life After Divorce


“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for circumstances they want; if they can’t find them, they make them.” ~ George Bernard Shaw

The Blame Game

Blaming is easy. But it never really gets us anywhere. We blame ourselves, our circumstances, our lack of money, and our divorce. But the truth is, whatever we are blaming for our unhappiness and lack of fulfillment is not the real problem.

It’s You

If we are not happy, the problem is us. That probably sounds calloused and harsh in the middle of a divorce.

It is so easy to think that if only the circumstances in our lives were different, then we could be content. We would be okay. But in reality, if we’re not happy regardless of our circumstances, we probably won’t be happy when things are going our way.

Living a Happy Life

It is undeniable that circumstances do affect us. And everyone on this earth has to deal with hard and unwanted circumstances at some point. However, I believe what makes the most difference is what kind of person you are, not what has happened to you.

Our victories depend on our attitude, not on outside influences. It’s hard to do sometimes, but we have to take responsibility for our own joy. Blaming someone or something else doesn’t gain us victory. Making the choice to take control of our own circumstances does.

“Yet amid all these things we are more than conquerors and gain a surpassing victory through Him Who loved us.” ~ Romans 8:37 (The Amplified Bible)

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About the Author:

Suzy developed Midlife Divorce Recovery as a safe refuge for people healing and surviving the overwhelm of divorce. Starting her first RADiCAL support group in 2003 she's been helping women navigate the journey of divorce ever since.


  1. Hannah September 14, 2016 at 9:40 pm - Reply

    Your article has covered a great deal of good information in this hub. I think that every situation is different. And sometimes it just happens and you cannot avoid it.

  2. Erin March 23, 2017 at 4:19 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for this Suzy! It’s not that this is new information to me, it’s just that I needed to hear it right now. I have control over how I feel, it is not my circumstances that dictate it. Even though times are a bit tough right now, I can choose to be joyful.

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